The early bird catches the worm. A stitch in time saves nine. He who hesitates is lost. We can’t pretend we haven’t been told. We’ve all heard the proverbs, heard the philosophers, heard our grandparents warning us about wasted time, heard the damn poets urging us to “seize the day”. Still sometimes we have to see for ourselves. We have to make our own mistakes. We have to learn our own lessons. We have to sweep today’s possibility under tomorrow’s rug until we can’t anymore, until we finally understand for ourselves what Benjamin Franklin meant. That knowing is better than wondering, that waking is better than sleeping. And that even the biggest failure, even the worst most intractable mistake beats the hell out of never trying.
Intimacy is a four syllable word for “Here are my heart and soul, please grind them into hamburger, and enjoy.” It’s both desired, and feared. Difficult to live with, and impossible to live without. Intimacy also comes attached to life’s three R’s: relatives, romance, and roommates. There are some things you can’t escape. And other things you just don’t want to know.
I wish there was a rulebook for intimacy. Some kind of a guide that could tell you when you’ve crossed the line. It would be nice if you could see it coming. No matter how you fit it on a map, you take it where you can get it, and keep it as long as you can. And as for rules, maybe there are none. Maybe the rules of intimacy are something you have to define for yourself.
After a while -the ways of residency- become the ways of life. Number one: always keep score. Number two: do whatever you can to outsmart the other guy. Number three: Don’t make friends with the enemy. Oh, and, yeah, number four: everything, everything is a competition. Whoever said that winning wasn’t everything never held a scalpel.
There’s another way to survive this competition. A way no one ever seems to tell you about. One you have to learn for yourself. Number five: it’s not about the race at all. There are no winners or losers. Victories are counted by the number of lives saved. And once in a while, if you’re smart, the life you save could be your own.
At some point, you have to make a decision. Boundaries don’t keep other people out. They fence you in. Life is messy. That’s how we’re made. So, you can waste your life drawing lines, or you can live your life crossing them. But there are some lines that are way too dangerous to cross. But here’s what I know: if you’re willing to take the chance… the view from the other side is spectacular.
TV Shows Challenge | 5 best actors/actresses: Katherine Heigl (“Grey’s Anatomy”)
“I really do have an exciting life and I seem to launch from one thing to another. I don’t know if it is something I do to keep life exciting or if it is just the natural course of my life. I’m not sure.”
TV Shows Challenge | 8 couples you ship: Izzie Stevens & Denny Duquette (Grey’s Anatomy)
Izzie: I can not date a patient.
Denny: Good luck with that.
TV Shows Challenge | 9 characters you love: Isobel “Izzie” Stevens (Grey’s Anatomy)
“You never know the biggest day of your life is the biggest day. Not until it’s happening. You don’t recognize the biggest day of your life, not until you’re right in the middle of it. The day you commit to something or someone. The day you get your heart broken. The day you meet your soul mate. The day you realize there’s not enough time, because you wanna live forever. Those are the biggest days. The perfect days.”
TV Shows Challenge | 10 TV shows you love the most: Grey’s Anatomy
“I can’t think of a single reason why I should be a surgeon, but I can think of a thousand reasons why I should quit. They make it hard on purpose. There are lives in our hands. There comes a moment when it’s more than just a game, and you either take that step forward or turn around and walk away. I could quit but here’s the thing… I love the playing field.”
